I’m too much, or my relationships blow up
Emotional Intensity & Personality Patterns
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Some people feel everything at full volume. Hurt, anger, love and fear show up fast and hit hard.
You may have been told you’re too much, too sensitive, or too dramatic. You may have said things in a fight that you’d never say calm.
Strong feelings are not a flaw. But when they run the show, relationships take the damage.
This part of the guide also covers the labels people throw around, like “narcissist,” “borderline” and “toxic,” and what they really mean.
Is this you?
- Your feelings go from zero to ten in seconds.
- You say things in a fight that you regret later.
- You’ve been called “too much” or “too sensitive” more than once.
- Your relationships feel intense, then fall apart.
- You feel flooded and can’t think straight in an argument.
- You wonder if you, or someone you love, has a personality disorder.
Start here
When your feelings are bigger than the room.
Why feeling a lot isn’t the problem.
When your body takes over in the middle of a fight.
What your anger is trying to tell you, and how to use it.
“Narcissist,” “Borderline,” “Toxic” →
What these labels mean, and what they don’t.
Charm, lying, and the criminal personality.
A plain explanation of a therapy built for intense emotions.
See also: The Same Fight, Again · Why I Shut Down During Conflict · Chaotic Partners
I treat this. I use skills from DBT in my work, but I don’t run a full DBT program. If you need the complete program, this page explains what to look for.
How therapy works with me
We look for the pattern. What sets the feeling off, what happens in your body, and what you do next.
I pay close attention to your words, in the moment and after. “You never.” “I don’t care anymore.” “I’m done.” Those phrases show when a feeling has taken the wheel.
Intense feelings almost always involve someone else. Partners and family can join sessions so the whole pattern can change, not just your half. Sessions are by video, in English or Spanish.
If anger has turned into threats, hitting, breaking things, or control over a partner, that needs attention now. If you’re on the receiving end, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, free and 24/7.
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Frequently asked questions
Do you diagnose personality disorders?
I can assess for them when it helps your treatment. Most people I see don’t need a label to start getting better.
Do you offer DBT?
I use DBT skills, like calming your body and riding out urges. I don’t offer the full DBT program, which includes skills groups.
Can my partner come too?
Yes. Many of these patterns show up most with a partner, and couples sessions can help both of you. Coverage depends on your plan.
I think my partner is a narcissist. Can you help me?
Yes. We can look at what’s happening, what you need, and how to protect yourself, whether or not your partner ever comes in.
Start with the last blow-up
You don’t have to defend yourself here.
You can start with one sentence:
“I lose it, and then I hate myself for it.”
We can start there.
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Telehealth anywhere in Florida · English / Español
In crisis? Call or text 988.
Eduardo Florez, LMHC
Eduardo Florez, LMHC, has worked across forensic, institutional and private practice settings. He is the founder and clinical director of ShieldMee, a Florida nonprofit telehealth practice, and works bilingually with couples in crisis and clients for whom therapy hasn’t worked before.
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